A few things to keep in mind going into the weekend. I give you four phrases that you should commit to memory and tell yourself every day:
I’m in control of my life.
I’m in control of my future.
If I need to change, that’s on me.
I won’t let others determine my success.
This is much more than just a ‘go-out-there-and-hype-yourself-up’ post. As I was getting ready this morning, I was reflecting on all the garbage, talk shows, media and celebrities that are trying to propagate the idea that you’re a victim. It doesn’t matter where you’ve come from.
Well, that’s not entirely true. If you’re a white, religious, male than you should just take a seat and keep your mouth shut. Isn’t that a form of discrimination…
So this means that you’re a collective body of work as a human being based on the things that have been ‘done to you’. There is no way to change. The only thing that you can do is ‘go political’ and go find someone to harass down at your local gas station about how they took away your rights. I’ve heard a lot recently that argues this philosophy, and that there is no other way to handle your problems. My friends,
This is simply not true.
Let’s just take one area of my life: School. In high school, the strong majority of teachers thought that I was a lost cause. That academically, I wouldn’t go far. This isn’t the forum to get into all the comments and remarks, but let’s just give one: My German teacher, Frau Crist, told me that I would never learn another language, and that I had to live with it.
What? Just live with it? I don’t think so.
I’ve always had the ‘prove ’em wrong’ mindset, so that’s what I did.
In my college years, I was balancing work, school, heavy church responsibilities, parenting, learning to be a husband, teaching, tutoring and I kept my head above water. I learned Spanish and Portuguese. Took a Chinese class. Now I’m learning French. I taught myself how to play the guitar and ukulele. I have put in the work to develop my talents as a musician and composer. I got straight A’s through graduate school.
I bring this up only to illustrate that you can rise above the expectations of others, and the environment you’ve found yourself in. You can change today. You can be a catalyst to take the story of your life down a different path–one that is successful and happy.
Running around yelling at people, shaming people, targeting groups in hatred, and blaming is not going to get you anywhere. I believe it will make your situation much worse.
My ‘wisdom’ for the weekend is this:
- Evaluate your life-Are you happy right now? What makes you happy?
- Plan the change-Where can I improve my habits? What do I need to do?
- Move to action-What goals can I set? Who do I need to talk to? How do I keep myself motivated.
Take a few moments this weekend and get down to the nitty-gritty of what makes you, ‘you’. Critique the things you’ve been doing that really aren’t that good. Commit to erasing habits that bring you down and take your attention away from what really matters. Hold yourself accountable for what you have laid out.
Than just do.
It’s that simple.
If we all did that, we’d have a lot less ‘why me?’ That’s for sure.